I have a friend who refuses to attend church.
“I can’t live that kind of life, I don’t wanna be a hypocrite.” he says.
I used to think this way.
You see, I used to consider myself a perfectionist. I constantly would beat myself up over things that I had done that were less than perfect, or worse, I would never finish a project because I couldn’t get it perfect.
My good buddy Doug Feagles of Eagle Custom Homes, (who is a world class builder) says to me all the time, “perfection is not cost justified.” Meaning, perfection is just too expensive to produce.
Your products, your services, they just can’t be perfect. There aren’t enough buyers who are willing to pay for perfection.
So it is with you my friend. You don’t have to be perfect, no one truly expects it, but more important, you can’t achieve it. The cost is too great.
When perfection doesn’t happen you begin to criticize yourself and negative self talk becomes a habit. This can lead to anxiety, depression, addictions.
In her book Radical Acceptance, Tara Brach puts it this way; “For many of us, feelings of deficiency are right around the corner. It doesn’t take much–just hearing of someone else’s accomplishments, being criticized, getting into an argument, making a mistake at work–to make us feel that we are not okay. Beginning to understand how our lives have become ensnared in this trance of unworthiness is our first step toward reconnecting with who we really are and what it means to live fully.”
Jesus taught us, “judge not”.
To consider judging anything, even our own flaws, is the height of arrogance.
My friend who won’t attend church is missing the point. Church is full of imperfect people and that’s okay.
Business is full of imperfect people, even you, and especially me!
You and I are perfectly imperfect.