A few weeks ago, on podcast Episode 78 of the Loveland Advice Givers podcast, I discussed leadership.
In a sense, we are all leaders. Are you a mom? You’re a leader. Are you a dad? You’re a leader. Are you a Sunday School Teacher? You’re a leader.
One of the main themes of that episode was that leadership starts with you. My take? “If you want to lead people, you first must become someone worth following.”
So, to become a leader you must learn to manage the most difficult person you will ever encounter, the person looking back at you in the mirror.
In order to manage others you must first manage yourself.
Right now, I am not happy with myself. Right now, I am not consistent with almost any aspect of my personal and professional development.
Right now, I am not someone I believe worthy of being followed.
Here’s the thing, I have this collision of ideas that for about a year has nearly paralyzed me.
The fight inside of my head, like a good boxing match, is between two seemingly opposite viewpoints.
Regiment vs. Flow.
The ring announcer introduces the two opponents:
“In this corner wearing blue trunks, weighing in at 225 pounds from Milwaukee, Wisconsin: Reg-i-meeeeeeent! And in this corner in red trunks and a svelte 200 pounds from Long Beach, California – – – -Flooooooooow!”
When to work. When to rest. Be strict with my schedule or let things flow. Be regimented and dogmatic or just take things as they come. Be intentional about everything I do or let nature take its course.
Regiment represents hard work and intention.
Flow represents the ability to let your day unfold and not press too hard. Stay within yourself. Smell the roses.
This is one of the worst feelings–to be stuck in the middle. Like a deer in the headlights.
The uncertainty that comes with this feeling has hurt my confidence.
Self doubt has creeped into my mindset and self-sabotage has slowed my progress.
It’s like the first time you jumped off of the high dive at the pool and you just stand there unsure whether or not you will take the plunge.
Our life so many times gives us these seemingly polar opposite choices.
When we are faced with difficult choices, the right answer is almost always to move forward. To go. To do. To try.
Regiment or flow?
I’ve decided to choose both.
Regiment to order my days.
Flow to allow for the inevitable obstacles.
Podcast music by Akira the Don with permission.