In 1986 I left my job at the lumberyard to work for a financial services company.
When I say financial services, I mean a lender. Only it wasn’t a bank, or a mortgage company. They did personal loans. My job? Call people and make loans.
Needless to say, cold calling to sell high interest personal loans was not my thing. In addition we had to make “collection” calls! Oy vey.
One of my bosses was a character named Ron Gansheimer. Charismatic, boisterous, but one of the best communicators I’ve ever met.
He had a philosophy– “Don’t say, you’ll TRY.”
“Trying,” to Ron Gansheimer was just the beginning of an excuse. “Well, I tried” is the next natural progression. He preferred, “Strive” to the word try.
I’ve never forgotten that saying and still think about it. I’m not convinced it’s accurate, however, I understood it and respected his thought process.
“Don’t say, you’ll TRY,” is just an opinion. One man’s truth.
Nike says, “Just Do It.” Is that good advice? Maybe. Given the right set of circumstances.
Nancy Reagan said, “Just Say No to Drugs”. Probably really good advice. But, is saying no a good life philosophy?
I’m reading the book “Love Does”, by Bob Goff and he has an entire chapter dedicated to “Just Say Yes.” Is that the right mindset? Always say yes? Maybe short term. Bob Goff tried it for a short period of time, but is it sustainable?
What I’ve learned over the years is that truth is not easy to define. What’s true for one situation is not true for all situations.
Here’s how I’ve come to measure what is true.
My experiences, my observations, and my God.
What He says is the ultimate barometer of the truth. That’s MY truth.
However, each situation is different and what is true for one person is not true for another.
Making decisions can be helped by seeking input, but remember, the advice from someone is THEIR truth. It’s okay to get advice, but ultimately the answers lie within us, not without.
Ultimately, we must make a decision and move forward, in light of or despite the opinions of others.