Saturday Theresa and I purchased a coffee table. Not just any coffee table, but one of those lift top tables. You know, where the top raises up to make it more convenient to use a laptop or maybe have lunch.
The kind folks at Bond Furniture helped me load it into my pickup truck but when I got home and started to unload, I realized this was too heavy for Theresa. I needed help.
Who to call?
In my life, almost always, the person that pops into my head is my brother Michael Adams. Mr. Reliable. Mr. Always-Says-Yes-First-And-Asks-Questions-Later.
As we pulled the table off of the truck he realized why I had to call him, this thing was heavy! But getting it off of the truck was step one. Of course the table was destined for our guest room on the second floor, which meant we had to navigate a narrow set of stairs, and two narrow doorways.
If you want to be entertained, just watch my brother and I try to solve a problem together. The insults begin to fly. The dialogue is quite colorful.
“No, dumbass, we need to do it this way!”
That line has been used by both of us multiple times in our relationship. Of course directed at one another.
You see, my brother Michael is opinionated.
His brother is opinionated.
We argue with vigor, but unlike most people, we don’t get offended. In fact, we try to offend one another. We call each other names. We get loud.
Ultimately, it’s just good natured banter. We know, that no matter how stupid his opinions are, that we will still be brothers. Still love one another. Still be there for one another.
Over the years we have learned that when the argument is over, it’s business as usual. No harm. No foul. No animosity. It’s part of our special relationship.
Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we all could state our opinion and know that the person on the other end of the conversation would not get offended?
We all have opinions. There’s no way we can all see the world in the same way. Although someone else has an opinion different than ours, it’s important that we don’t judge them. We don’t know their history or their struggles. Maybe they are right. Maybe they are further along in life and have a better perspective.
But, what happens when their opinions are aimed at us? When we are criticized? Ridiculed? Judged?
The thing that annoys me the most in business is that people allow the opinions of others to be a roadblock to their success.
I’ve seen this play out with real estate agents.
Early in an agent’s career it’s very difficult to convince folks you can be trusted with what is for some their most expensive asset–their home. After enough negative responses from the general public and many times their own family, the agent loses confidence. Doubt and fear immobilizes them. They become disillusioned and quit.
They fail because they are consumed by the opinion of others.
How should we respond?
I believe the answer lies within us.
I believe that inside each of us is a light.
I believe our art, our craft, needs to developed and shared.
The opinion of others be damned.
May we all become more interested in developing our life-song than consumed by what others think.
My brother Michael would approve of this message.