Today was one of those days.
I have them once in a while.
One of those days where the list on my desk is the same at the end of the day as it was when I started. Incomplete.
Phone calls. Emails. Busy work.
Everything except what’s important.
Most days I have full days start to finish, busy with contracts, client follow up, agent follow up, showing homes.
Today was different. There were no appointments. No specific deadlines. No homes to show. So, I didn’t push very hard. Didn’t push through the projects on my list.
Today I should have written the job description for my new employee. Today, I should have uploaded the video from my last two podcasts. Today, I should have published my newsletter. Today I should have recorded a training video for a new agent who is joining in January.
Instead, none of that happened.
You see, I work alone. No boss. No one to hold me accountable. Sometimes I can just push things until tomorrow. Which is what I did today.
I wish I had a boss.
Some of you are probably thinking I’m crazy. Some of you have a boss you cannot stand. In fact, you probably wish you didn’t have a boss at all.
Well, I’ve got news for you, having a boss is not the worst thing in the world.
Working on a team is so much more gratifying than working alone. At least you have a coach to keep you focused on what’s important. Someone to get the most out of your efforts. Someone to push you out of your comfort zone. Someone who helps you to grow.
If only I had a boss.
The reality is that I do have a boss. A horrible boss. A highly critical, high expectation, no BS boss.
A total tyrant.
Way harder on myself than any boss I’ve ever had. Harder on me than on anyone I’ve ever managed or coached.
When dealing with others, I’m a totally understanding and encouraging figure, but to myself I give no excuses and expect perfection.
After a day of imperfection I sat down my wife at dinner.
She was feeling guilty about a relationship gone bad, through no fault of hers. I said to her “The gap between expectations and reality lives unhappiness. Your expectation of that person is too high.”
Turns out the advice to her was one also meant for me.
I’ll leave you with a thought from the great poet and storyteller Ray Wylie Hubbard–”And the days that I keep my gratitude higher than my expectations those are the good days.”