As a kid I played a lot of cards with my family.
My mom, my aunt Karen, and my uncles were all kind enough to let a ten year old kid play with the grown ups.
Our game of choice was spades.
Card games are a great way to bring together family, to have fun, and best of all–compete.
Although I loved to compete, I was the WORST loser. When things weren’t going my way and I started to lose, I would literally throw my cards and yell, “I quit!”
Looking back I really appreciate their patience with me as this behavior was not a one time occurrence. Each time I asked if I could play they challenged me to ensure I would finish the game. Over time I learned to behave and ultimately the outbursts subsided.
Quitting, if unchallenged, becomes a habit.
My childhood quitting habit was thwarted further by my baseball and football coaches. Thanks to athletics and the coaches who volunteered, I learned to compete, and lose, and to continue to fight. Giving up was no longer an option.
So much of life is represented in competition. There is always someone or some circumstance that stands between us, our dreams, and our joy in life.
Ultimately, it is our choice whether or not to quit.
One of the more challenging times in my life was during the financial crisis of 2008.
I was a real estate agent with RE/MAX going into my 6th year. Things were going well so I started looking for ways to build for my retirement. I decided after looking at a lot of different options to purchase a small cabinet manufacturing business. We closed on the purchase in May of 2017 and things went well until the fall of 2008.
Both of my businesses, the real estate practice and the cabinet business, were devastated by the financial crisis. People were losing jobs. Lenders stopped lending. Houses weren’t selling. Cabinets weren’t being purchased.
As 2009 came to a close, it became clear to me my path forward, I had no choice, I had to close the cabinet business. In fact, I wondered if I could even continue my commission only job as a real estate agent.
After the close of the cabinet business, I looked at my circumstance, weighed my options and made a decision to get my real estate broker license and start my own brokerage.
Last week Bastion REALTORS® turned seven years old. We are not quitters. We don’t quit on our agents. We don’t quit on our clients. We don’t quit on our community.
What about you? Are you competing?
Competing is a necessary way to view business and life. We will have victories and we will suffer losses, but we have to be determined to continue the battle, win or lose.